Wandering, Not Lost Newsletter

A newsletter for those navigating uncertainty, forging unconventional paths, and building their lives and careers on their own terms.

I know what it’s like to outgrow a version of yourself and not yet know who you’re becoming next. 

If you’ve ever felt the nudging feeling that you need to change the way your life is going, if you’re suddenly starting to feel an uncertainty about things you used to be sure of, if you get the sense that everyone else got the “how to figure your life out” manual you never received, if you are filled with a growing discontent but you can’t quite place a finger on it, you might be going through a quarter-life crisis and you’re not alone.

Wandering, Not Lost is a weekly letter for those navigating their 20s and 30s with the desire to live a life that actually feels like their own.

I write for people with a longing for more, I hope to give you the courage to keep going even when the path feels unclear.

Sometimes all you need is to hear,

“I get it. I’ve been there. You’re doing better than you think”

Welcome, you’re in the right place.

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A few years ago, I walked away from a fully funded PhD program, a dream opportunity I had spent my whole life building up to. It was supposed to be my big break but instead I felt uninspired and lost. From the outside, it looked like success, and it was success in its own right, just not the kind I wanted.

Ever had people congratulate you for something you know deep down you don’t want?

It was secure and logical to continue on but I was living a life that made sense to everyone but me. I had made every decision in my 20s to get me to that point — go to grad school, get a business degree, get more degrees then get a job in finance— now I was here, closer than ever to that goal and I was as lost as ever. 

Sitting in a business class in Getafe Madrid, one undergraduate degree and one post graduate degree already under my belt and beginning a 5 year journey to acquire yet another one, I felt deeply misaligned, unhappy and lost. 

For months, I ignored this feeling. I told myself it was just stress, or fear, or a phase that would pass. I told myself to push through. To be grateful. To not disrupt the plan.

But eventually, I realized the cost of staying put was higher than the cost of leaving. So I left.

Not because I had another opportunity lined up or another plan. I left so I could stop betraying myself. 

That decision and the season that followed — the unraveling, the wandering, the rebuilding, the pivot — shaped my understanding of the quarter-life crisis. And yes, it was one of the best decisions I ever made.

Who Is This Newsletter For?

  • You’re in your 20s or 30s and feel pressured to have your life figured out by now
  • You have a well-paying job but feel uninspired, listless, and dead inside
  • You’re doing what you love, but broke af
  • You feel you’re behind (in career, relationships, adulting, etc.)
  • Everyone except you seems to have things figured out
  • You finally have what you’ve always wanted, but you still feel unfulfilled and empty
  • You have creative yearnings, but are scared to start over
  • You are a high achiever, but are burnt out
  • You suddenly feel out of place in the life you’ve built
  • You feel the weight of your parents’ and family’s expectations
  • You’re a recent college graduate who’s not sure what to do next
  • You’ve been working on your dream for the past 5+ years,
    but you have     no savings and are still too broke to afford a spontaneous soft pretzel
  • You have all the answers, but are curious to see how the other half lives

What You’ll Get Every Sunday

A short (sometimes long), honest letter, like a friend checking in, with these things:

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Thoughtful reflections and grounded frameworks to help you make sense of where you are

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Practical guidance for the internal conflicts that come with becoming the person you’re supposed to be

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Tools for navigating the self-doubt, burnout, unhealthy comparison, conflicts, and loss of identity that come with finding yourself

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Hard questions and prompts to help you reconnect with yourself and force you to push through the blocks

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Storytelling that helps you feel less alone. Real stories from my life and others’ on pivots, missteps, failures that led to open doors and reinventions

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Ideas that challenge the norm and question ideals that no one seems to be questioning

All delivered every Sunday morning, an ideal time to pause and reflect, and to help you start the week feeling a little more steady.

Now is a good time to join if you’re looking for:

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Steady encouragement

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Thoughtful guidance that doesn’t overwhelm

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A voice that feels like a friend in your corner

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A reminder that just because you’re Wandering doesn’t mean you’re Lost

You deserve support while you navigate your quarter-life crisis, and if you want that support, I’d love to write to you.

This is what I know about you (Even though we haven’t met yet)

  • You’re trying. Harder than anyone realizes.
  • You’re carrying questions you don’t always have words for.
  • You’ve checked all the boxes you were told to check, BUT still feel like something’s missing.
  • And even though you’re growing, it often feels like you’re standing still.
  • You know you’re meant for something more
  • If you read this and feel even a small exhale… you’ll feel at home in what I write every Sunday.

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